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The smartphone generation
“Can I have a cell phone?”
a question that parents of 11- and 12-year-olds have become used to
hearing over the last few years. For a time, we could hope to put the
decision off for a few years, or at least until they turned 13. But not
anymore. Through peer pressure – and perhaps some over-protective
parenting – cell phone ownership among tweens has now become the norm.
recently the question many parents are hearing has undergone a subtle
change. Instead of “Can I have a cell phone?” it’s now “Can I have
smartphone?” Suddenly a simple device that can be used for calling and
texting is no longer enough. Now it has to have Web access, a camera, IM
and e-mail capability, games, access to an app store, and multiple
To be fair to most 11-year-olds, they aren’t
looking to spend all day surfing the Web. The two big attractions of
smartphones are music and games. Kids don’t see smartphones as phones
anymore; they see them the way manufacturers want all of us to see them –
as mini computers and media hubs.
At the top of every tween’s
must-have list is Apple’s iPhone. This Cadillac of smartphones has
everything a kid could want: texting, music, games, access to hundreds
of thousands of apps…and, oh yes, the ability to make the occasional
phone call. But if you are thinking of buying your youngster an iPhone,
or any other kid of smartphone, there are a few things you should
1. Smartphones are unfiltered Web browsers
may be savvy enough to have placed the home computer in the living room
so you can keep an eye on what the kids are up to, and installed
parental controls, but as soon as you hand over a smartphone, then all
those controls go out the window. Most smartphones offer completely
unfiltered access to the Web. Where there are parental controls, like on
the iPhone, it’s a question of all or nothing. You can leave access to
Safari turned on or you can turn it off completely.
2. Apps cost money
lot of parents are surprised when that first smartphone bill arrives
and they see a lot of line items they don’t recognize. Or, in the case
of an iPhone, their iTunes account starts to see a lot more action than
usual. Whether it’s The Sims 3, Doodle Jump, Wordsmith, or any one of
the thousands of other games, downloading apps costs money. Add in the
extra data plan and the cost of providing your youngest with a
smartphone can start to add up.
3. Sharing is not always caring
HD camera and the ability to instantly share pictures online is not
always the safest combination in the hands of a pre-teen. The powerful
e-mail and photo-sharing features call for a level of maturity that is
far beyond most 12-year-olds. We have all read the tragic stories of
sexting and cyber bullying, and it’s no coincidence that many of the
cases involve younger and younger children.
4. Smartphones are expensive to replace
are often surprisingly delicate – witness the iPhone’s notorious
reputation for cracked screens – and can be very expensive to repair or
replace. Plus, they don’t respond well to being dropped in snow banks or
rain puddles. If your child has recently lost or broken an iPod, then
that’s a pretty sure sign that he or she isn’t quite ready for the big
The explosion in smartphone technology – and the race to
bring competitive phones to market – has meant that mobile parental
controls have largely been an afterthought. Although manufacturers,
service providers, and third-party developers are striving to plug the
hole, it will be quite some time before effective controls are in place.
course, the exception is the iPhone. But, as stated above, most of the
iPhone controls disable features rather than filter content. If you plan
on buying a smartphone and switching off the web browsing and app
download features, then you might wonder why your child needs a
smartphone in the first place!
Does your tween have a smartphone? What restrictions have you put in place? Share you thoughts with The Online Mom!